Of course, as somebody who is psychologically enlightened, I've reviewed my trauma experiences, my coping mechanisms and attachment styles and validated where I am and what personality disorders those I regularly interface with have. And, like of all us, I want to show up in relationships whilst shunning toxic people and others who project onto me. I've also self diagnosed where I am in terms of OCD, depression, anxiety, ADHD, and narcissism.
I tthink I know how to hold my boundaries, and practise self-care whilst doing the work to process my trauma, spot gaslighting, acknowledge my emotional labour and identify triggers.
Some of this is about wellness, self help and talking about depression, denial, slip of the tongue, hysteria and inner child.
I've had therapists listen to my thoughts and say "OK, tell me more about that. How did you experience that". But my generation's increases awareness of psychological dynamics, and a growing ease to identify and discuss mental health issues, mean, I think, that we've moved beyond their shallow analysis of distancing through words.
Some say that in embracing a more open dialogue on relationships and mental health issues we're a generation that can't deal with the usual ups and downs of life, and have adopted a language that moves us away from the reality of whether we are terrified or angry to descrbing others. But of course they simply don't understand.
And of course when friends reach out for help I try to help. But often I have to thank them for reaching out but, for my own emotional health, let them know that I’m actually at capacity helping someone else who’s in crisis (or dealing with some personal stuff right now), so I don’t think I can hold appropriate space for them right now.you. I'll often follow that up with an offer to connect later or prompt for them to connect with someone else they can reach out to
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