the article answers this and other questions more fully but some headlines from it are:
- our death distancing/denying culture means we are not realistic about the aftermath from losing a loved one
- the initial bereavement period is about thirteen months long as we go through all the annual annual occasions once celebrated together with the person
- the journey of grief is taken best within the context of a caring community: family, friends and neighbours, faith group.
- grief is not about the one who died, but about the pain I feel because he/she is gone and my life is changed forever.