grieving

this article from chaplain mike via the internet monk looks at what his approach is to the grief of those surviving the loss of a loved one. 

the article answers this and other questions more fully but some headlines from it are:

- our death distancing/denying culture means we are not realistic about the aftermath from losing a loved one


 - the initial bereavement period is about thirteen months long as we go through all the annual annual occasions once celebrated together with the person


- the journey of grief is taken best within the context of a caring community: family, friends and neighbours, faith group. 


- grief is not about the one who died, but about the pain I feel because he/she is gone and my life is changed forever.